Low self esteem can manifest in many ways and can be a long-term concern or a sudden onset, caused by an upsetting event. Understanding self esteem and building self confidence are fundamental to help overcoming blockages, relationships issues, dissatisfaction, stress, anxiety and depression. Automatic negative thoughts, beliefs formed early in life and poor self-image are just a few factors that contribute to low self-esteem.
What Is Counselling for Self Esteem & Confidence?
Self esteem is how you consider yourself and your self-worth. Having positive, healthy self esteem can encourage self-realisation and overall life satisfaction. It can impact your confidence to move forward, to be willing to attempt and take risks as well as being more equipped to handle daily challenges. When an individual experiences feelings of low self esteem they are more likely to struggle with daily conflicts and with assertiveness.
Self esteem is not simply how we outwardly treat ourselves but is much more closely related to how we internally feel about our self value. Many individuals believe that their opinions of themselves are intrinsic and inherent facts, rather than an affected and learned perception. We understand that because of the multifaceted nature of low self esteem, it can seem daunting to begin to take stock of it, in order to overcome and engage with.
Whilst low self esteem is not a specific mental health condition, it has a symbiotic relationship with mental health concerns such as depression and social confidence or social anxiety. Individuals who experience low self esteem are often over critical of themselves and pressure themselves to behave, look or perform a certain way. Low self esteem can be an obstacle that prevents individuals from achieving important goals by perpetuating and feeding negative thought cycles.
Automatic negative thoughts often interfere with daily life and manifest as an individual’s inability to perform, socialise, take risks or even accept compliments.
A solid and good self-esteem can be extremely empowering and energising; On the other end when self esteem is low life can feel difficult, goals are often unrealistic, bringing a sense of anxiety, depression, worthlessness and helplessness. Building self confidence is a gradual process and a wholly beneficial and encouraging experience; it can be the starting point for building lasting relationships or reconsidering your career and life choices to become who you want to be, without fear.
What Is Low Self Esteem Caused By?
Self esteem is a profound dimension to engage with and is often connected with developing years. Traumatic and challenging events in the formative years can have a lasting impact on how you feel about yourself.
Some common factors and experiences connected with self esteem concerns;
- Abuse at any age, including prejudices or discrimination
- Early formed beliefs about self
- Relational challenges at work
- Concerning relationships or divorces
- Chronic stress
- Social anxiety
At Leone Centre, we work together in sessions to understand where feelings of low self esteem originate and how they became rooted. As a comprehensive counselling and therapy service, we are fully committed to helping you regain the good quality of life that poor self confidence and self esteem have undermined.
Start Building Good Self Confidence
As above, self esteem is an internal occurrence whilst self confidence is an external experience. This does mean that they are not mutually exclusive; individuals can have high self confidence and perform confidently but still experience low self esteem, for example.
Self confidence is situation-based and reflects feelings about abilities, knowledge or skill. Building self confidence is similar to learning a new skill as it is an external entity that can be more easily identified. Whereas, self esteem is an internal reflection of an individual’s sense of self. Self worth and low self esteem cannot be improved by external achievements or successes.
At the Leone Centre, we work with you to help develop your self confidence so that you can move towards your personal goals in the best possible way. We offer a committed professional service and work in a safe and secure environment for our clients to feel in the best place to explore their emotions, emotional and mental health. We are also able to integrate multiple approaches, including CBT or energy works to make a positive change in your life.
Building self confidence can also be vastly beneficial to your relationships. Becoming co-dependent on another person, experiencing difficult feelings or struggling to trust your partner, can all be a manifestation of low self-esteem.
If you are experiencing anxiety, social withdrawal, eating disorders, poor self-image or work-related issues or any of the other concerns mentioned, get in touch with one of our qualified counsellors who will be glad to help. Contact us to begin your journey and to meet the better you!
We offer counselling and psychotherapy online and in London – covering the areas of Fulham, Putney, Chelsea and Wimbledon – for low confidence and self-esteem or for an initial consultation. Click this link to get in touch.