Infidelity Counselling
Are you a couple seeking counselling to save your marriage and relationship after an affair and betrayal? Are you having an affair and looking for therapy as you find yourself in a position where you must make difficult choices? Has your partner been cheating on you, leaving you in shock, pain, anger and simultaneously fearful of losing the person you love?
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- Infidelity Counselling
- Are you feeling alone and isolated in your relationship?
- What Is Infidelity?
- Why Do People Cheat?
- How To Survive Infidelity In A Relationship?
- Trust After Infidelity
- Deciding Whether to Stay After Infidelity
- The Social and Emotional Impact of Infidelity
- Micro-Cheating and Emotional Infidelity
- Is Pornography Cheating?
- Infidelity Counselling Online
- Infidelity Counselling, London
Are you feeling alone and isolated in your relationship?
After an affair, the trust within a relationship is broken, and at least one person will feel extremely wounded. Infidelity can be painfully devastating for both parties, but it does not necessarily mean the end of your relationship.
Many affairs can indeed result in a breakup, but the help of counselling can also mean a new beginning, reconnection and renewal.
The incidence of infidelity has been rising in the last decade. Cheating, having an affair or betrayal sometimes happens within an already-existent relational context: dissatisfaction, midlife crises, issues with intimacy or a search for what seems to be missing in the relationship.
More often than not, affairs do not happen because of lack of love: it might be that one partner seeks excitement, fulfilment and aliveness from outside of the relationship even if they love their partner and want to stay in the relationship.
It takes two people to create a pattern, but only one to change it. Sometimes, the hardest thing to come to terms with is a mutual acceptance of responsibility.
Leone Centre offers both individual relationship therapy and couples counselling after an affair in London and UK-wide via our online counselling services:
In the aftermath of an affair, your first marriage is over. Would you like to create a second one together?
After the inevitable shock, you may come to counselling as you have decided that your relationship is important and needs your commitment and attention more than ever. After a betrayal, nothing looks the same; the relationship is ending as you know it.
Each partner might feel reactive, confused, guilty, angry, stressed and fearful that the relationship is over. Counsellors at Leone Centre know the high-stress levels and apprehension of a couple starting counselling after an affair, infidelity and betrayal are revealed or discovered. It might be complicated to see the potential for a new beginning.
At Leone Centre, supportive counselling after infidelity, cheating or a betrayal can help your understanding, reframing and how to relate with each other in new ways. We can assist you in looking to a future with integrity, mutual responsibility, and choice. Re-visioning the relationship and the individuals’ needs and wants within the counselling process can help a couple recover, move forward and make informed choices towards a healthier relationship.
Relationship or couples counselling after cheating or infidelity can help you to make real and lasting changes, to heal and move forward in your relationship.
What Is Infidelity?
Infidelity is the breaking of a promise to remain faithful to a romantic partner. This promise might be part of marriage vows, a privately spoken agreement, or even an unspoken assumption within the relationship. Despite the seriousness with which these promises are made, infidelity is not uncommon. When it happens, it raises challenging questions: Should you stay? Can trust be rebuilt? Or is it time to part ways? Understanding what constitutes infidelity in your relationship is the first step in addressing these painful issues.

- How can you relate to each other after an affair?
- Partners will have different beliefs on what infidelity entails, making it difficult to seek help or even express feelings of disappointment or insecurity.
- The world around us is changing fast, including how we connect and relate with each other as the landscape of relationships continues to evolve. It may be the case that you are in a committed relationship with a partner but struggle with communication, being yourself and speaking your truths.
- Infidelity and betrayal is a vast, complex and subjective field, and people have different definitions of what an affair might mean. Emotional infidelity or betrayal can mean that one partner is emotionally absent and disassociated from the relationship whilst fulfilling emotional needs elsewhere, outside the marriage or relationship. There is often a common ground in the understanding of what a physical affair and sexual infidelity mean, and it will also be subjective in each relationship,
- Cheating can also occur online or through flirting via text messages without the unfaithful partner ever having met the other in real life. Those dissatisfied with their relationship may use online forums or chatrooms as an escape or a way to seek explicit conversation with an online partner actively.
- Counselling after infidelity or an affair will help establish what both partners consider an affair. Moving forward, this sets expectations and boundaries within the relationship to ensure both partners are happy and feel safe.
- One partner may consider individual psychotherapy or counselling after infidelity to continue exploring jealousy, paranoia, depression or low self-esteem.
- Affairs can occur even in the happiest and most successful relationship. Infidelity does not necessarily mean your relationship is over, in fact, the Guardian reports that many relationships are strengthened after an affair has been discovered.
Why Do People Cheat?
Infidelity can be a deeply confusing and painful experience, especially when it occurs in an otherwise happy relationship. Cheating is not always a sign that love is lost; it can happen even in strong and fulfilling relationships. The reasons for infidelity vary widely and can include falling out of love, seeking variety, feeling neglected, or reacting to anger with a partner. Sometimes, the allure of something new and different can distract a person from their commitment, even when they still care deeply for their partner. Understanding these reasons can be the beginning of a conversation that may help address the relationship’s underlying issues.
How To Survive Infidelity In A Relationship?
An affair alerts us to a preexisting condition, either a troubled relationship or a troubled person.
Both partners will need to understand what caused the affair. Counselling after infidelity can help both partners make sense of their distancing from each other and consider the overall dynamics of the relationship.
Infidelity can have a strong knock-on effect on the confidence of both partners in the relationship; many struggle with guilt, blame, anger, resentment, denial and confusion. Suppose both partners are committed to the process and are willing to explore the catalyst or causes of an affair. In that case, it is possible to overcome the wounding of infidelity in a relationship.
Counselling after infidelity will encourage honesty and transparency. Couples are given a secure environment to share and work through what happened during the run-up and the affair. At the Leone Centre, we help both partners tell their stories and listen to each other in a supportive and constructive way.
Couples going through the emotional trials of infidelity are also likely to experience:
- Reactiveness and anxiety
- Self-esteem and confidence issues
- Anger and resentment
- Depression
- Low libido or impotence
- Loss of vision for their future
- Stress-induced symptoms of other physical concerns
It may be hard to recover sexual momentum, intimate affection and vulnerability with your partner. Counselling will help both partners to be real but considerate and gentle with themselves and each other.
If irreconcilable differences exist and both partners agree that their vision, desires, and what they need from the relationship are different, the Leone Centre will help you work on separation with respect and consideration for yourselves and each other. Our divorce counselling services are available to help you manage to co-parent and provide support throughout the overall transitional process.
The Leone Centre welcomes, values, and works with individuals and couples from all backgrounds, with the utmost regard for personal identity, gender, sexuality, religion, disability, culture, ethnicity, and age.
For more information about counselling after infidelity and appropriate routes for moving forward, contact the experienced team at the Leone Centre for an initial consultation.
Trust After Infidelity
Rebuilding trust after infidelity is challenging and often fraught with doubt. It is often difficult to trust a partner who has been unfaithful. However, each situation is unique, and while the past can inform our expectations, it doesn’t always dictate the future. Re-establishing trust requires open, honest communication and a willingness from both partners to address the issues that led to the betrayal.
Deciding Whether to Stay After Infidelity
Deciding whether to stay in a relationship after infidelity is a deeply personal and often difficult choice. Factors such as finances, shared parenting responsibilities, and family connections can weigh heavily on the decision. Additionally, the opinions and advice of friends and family members can influence this decision, often guiding the betrayed partner toward a resolution. Understanding what matters most to you and your partner in this situation is essential in determining the future of your relationship.
The Social and Emotional Impact of Infidelity
The discovery of infidelity can send shockwaves not only through the relationship but also through the wider social circle. Family connections, friendships, and even community standing can be affected. The emotional impact is equally profound, often leading to feelings of confusion, anger, doubt, and heartbreak. In some cases, the opinions and advice of friends and family play a significant role in whether a couple decides to stay together or separate. It is important to consider the broader effects of infidelity when deciding how to move forward.
Micro-Cheating and Emotional Infidelity
Infidelity is not always about physical relationships. Emotional infidelity, where one partner forms a deep, intimate connection with someone outside the relationship, can be just as devastating as a physical affair. Some people may also engage in what is known as “micro-cheating”—small actions that might seem harmless but can erode trust over time. This could include flirting with a colleague, maintaining a close relationship with an ex, or spending time on online forums or chatrooms that foster emotional connections. Understanding these behaviours and how they affect your relationship is crucial in navigating the complex landscape of modern relationships.
Is Pornography Cheating?
The question of whether pornography constitutes infidelity is a topic of much debate. For some, viewing pornography is seen as a harmless activity that does not impact the relationship. For others, it can feel like a form of betrayal, especially if it becomes a secretive or compulsive habit. Open communication about what each partner considers acceptable is key to maintaining trust and understanding in this area.
Infidelity Counselling Online
All of our services, where applicable, are available online. Contact us today to enquire about or book an online appointment for Infidelity Counselling. The benefits of working online with infidelity can be particularly beneficial.
Infidelity Counselling, London
What is infidelity?
Infidelity involves breaking a promise to be faithful to a romantic partner. This promise can be part of marriage vows, a spoken agreement, or even an assumption within the relationship. It raises difficult questions, such as whether to stay in the relationship, the possibility of rebuilding trust, or if it’s time to end the relationship. Different partners might have varying ideas about what constitutes infidelity, making it challenging to discuss or seek help for feelings of disappointment or insecurity.What are some challenges couples face after infidelity?
Couples often experience various difficulties after infidelity, such as reactiveness and anxiety, self-esteem and confidence issues, anger and resentment, depression, and changes in libido. It can be hard to regain sexual closeness, affection, and vulnerability. Rebuilding trust is also a significant hurdle, as it’s challenging to trust someone who has been unfaithful.How can counselling help after infidelity?
Counselling can provide a safe space for couples to discuss their experiences and work through the events leading up to and during the affair. It encourages honesty and transparency, allowing partners to share their stories and listen to each other in a supportive environment. Counselling can help both partners understand the reasons behind the affair and the dynamics of the relationship. It can also assist in addressing feelings of guilt, blame, anger, resentment, denial, and confusion that may arise. In cases where partners have different visions for the relationship, counselling can support them in separating respectfully.Get Started Today
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