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Gottman Method in Marriage Counselling

Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a well-established approach in marriage counselling, developed by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman. It focuses on strengthening the bond between partners by improving communication, increasing intimacy, and addressing conflict productively.

Common Challenges

The Gottman Method addresses several common issues in marriages:

  1. Communication breakdowns
  2. Unresolved conflicts
  3. Emotional disconnection
  4. Lack of intimacy
  5. Trust issues

Method Explained

The Gottman Method is built on the Sound Relationship House Theory, which includes components such as building love maps, sharing fondness and admiration, turning towards instead of away, managing conflict, making life dreams come true, and creating shared meaning. These components are designed to encourage emotional intimacy and trust between partners.

About Gottman

Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman are renowned psychologists who have spent decades researching what makes relationships succeed or fail. Their extensive research has led to the development of the Gottman Method, a structured, goal-oriented approach to marriage counselling.


The Gottman Method offers numerous benefits, including improved communication, enhanced emotional intimacy, better conflict resolution skills, and a stronger overall connection between partners. By focusing on the strengths of the relationship and building on them, couples can accomplish a more fulfilling and resilient partnership.

How it Works

The therapy process involves thorough assessments to understand the relationship dynamics, followed by interventions and exercises adapted to the couple’s specific needs. These may include communication exercises, conflict management processes, and activities to increase emotional closeness and understanding.


What is the Sound Relationship House Theory?
The Sound Relationship House Theory is a foundational concept in the Gottman Method, outlining key elements that create a strong and healthy relationship, such as trust, commitment, and productive conflict management.
How long does Gottman Method therapy take?
The duration of therapy varies depending on the couple’s needs and goals. Some couples may benefit from a few sessions, while others may require longer-term support.
Can the Gottman Method help with severe relationship issues?
Yes, the Gottman Method is designed to address a wide range of relationship issues, from minor conflicts to more severe challenges. It provides tools and processes to help couples work through their difficulties and build a stronger connection.


For more detailed information, please refer to the following sources:

  1. The Gottman Institute – The Gottman Method
  2. Psychology Today – Gottman Method
  3. National Center for Biotechnology Information – Gottman Method Couples Therapy
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This glossary provides definitions of various counselling terms and approaches for informational purposes only, without implying endorsement or service provision