Learning about Depression and The Role of Counselling

Posted August 25, 2023 by Cristina Vrech

Cristina Vrech - Individual and couples therapist

Cristina Vrech

Founder and Director - Individual & Couple Therapist, Corporate Services

Co-founder and director of Leone Centre, Cristina Vrech, has 20+ years of experience in working and supporting people, 14+ years of extensive experience as a therapist and offers valuable knowledge to individuals and couples. Prior to being a therapist, she worked in the financial sector.

Cristina takes a down-to-earth and direct approach across the landscapes of relationships, communication, stress, infidelity, confidence, loneliness, addiction, separation and divorce, IVF, and anxiety.

Offering Online Counselling and in person counselling.

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Learning about Depression

Depression transcends mere transient sadness; it represents a profound test of our psychological well-being, exerting its influence over thoughts, emotions, and sentiments, at times accompanied by enduring pangs of despair and despondency. Left unaddressed, out of awareness, and isolated from support systems, it morphs into an unbridled force capable of wreaking havoc upon one’s quality of life and interpersonal connections.

“Darkness, whether in mood or in night, is natural. So if we flow with the black bile of melancholia and endure the terrible darkness of depression, eventually we will break through into the light of joy. This is the Tao (the Way) of darkness or depression–this is the Mystery of its evolution.” Arnold Mindell

In the movement towards mental well-being, the comprehension of depression and its intricate manifestations stands as an indispensable stride forward.

Impact of Depression

In the tapestry of life, when depression weaves itself into the fabric of your existence or the life of a close companion, the profound resonance it carries might elude your conscious awareness. Its presence casts an intricate web of shadows, veiling your perception in a mist that can obscure even the most familiar vistas.

Depression, in its gravity, can exact a toll of no small measure, leaving an indelible mark on the landscape of your overall well-being. Its emotional undercurrents stir a consistent sorrow that ripples through self-identity and colours the way you perceive the external realm. You might have found yourself grappling with a waning drive, a faltering self-assurance, or a dimming of your intrinsic value.

Navigating the span of a day can become a more arduous expedition. Perhaps you’ve observed how depression becomes a veiled impediment, stifling the clarity of decision-making, sowing seeds of discord in your relationships, and casting a shroud over even the simplest of daily endeavours. This orchestration of challenges precipitates a gradual ebb in your personal and vocational triumphs as the weight of depression casts its pervasive shadow.

Recognising the Signs of Depression

Perhaps you find yourself pondering whether the shadows of depression have touched you or someone dear to you.

What are the subtle indicators? Delving into the realm of understanding regarding how depression weaves its intricate threads through your thoughts, actions, drive, and connections holds value.

You may encounter signs that beckon your attention:

  • Persistent Sadness: Feeling down, sad, or empty most of the day, nearly every day.
  • Loss of Interest: Loss of interest or pleasure in activities and hobbies that were once enjoyable.
  • Fatigue: Experiencing a significant decrease in energy, even after a restful sleep.
  • Changes in Appetite or Weight: Significant changes in appetite, leading to weight loss or gain.
  • Sleep Disturbances: Insomnia, oversleeping, or disrupted sleep patterns.
  • Difficulty Concentrating: Trouble focusing, making decisions, or remembering things.
  • Feelings of Worthlessness: Persistent feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or excessive self-criticism.
  • Physical Aches: Unexplained physical symptoms like headaches, stomachaches, or body pain.
  • Agitation or Sluggishness: Restlessness or slowed movements and speech.
  • Withdrawal from Social Activities: Pulling away from friends, family, and social situations.
  • Irritability: Being easily agitated, even over minor things.
  • Loss of Libido: Decreased interest in sexual activity.
  • Hopelessness: Feeling like things will never get better or improve.
  • Changes in Routine: Drastic changes in daily routines, like neglecting personal hygiene or responsibilities.

In severe cases, thoughts of death, dying, or a desire to end one’s life.

It’s important to keep in mind that depression affects people differently. If you or someone you know experiences several of these signs for an extended period, it’s important to seek help.

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Exploring Depression’s Impact on Relationships

Imagine the intricate constellation of relationships that are part of your life. Depression, far from a solitary struggle, is part of the field of these connections, interacting with conscious or unconscious dynamics with partners, family, children, friends, and colleagues.

  • Partners: Depression can cast a shadow over intimacy, altering moods and communication. However, partners can offer vital support through open conversations.
  • Family: Depression may cause misunderstandings among loved ones. Sharing your feelings and educating them about depression bridges gaps and strengthens support.
  • Children: Kids are perceptive. Discussing depression with age-appropriate openness helps them comprehend and learn empathy.
  • Friends: Maintaining friendships can be tough amid withdrawal and mood shifts. True friends who understand or stand by you enhance connections.
  • Colleagues: Depression can disrupt work, affecting concentration and interactions. Communicating your struggles can lead to understanding and workplace support.

While relationships evolve under depression’s weight, they can be resilient. Each connection offers a chance for growth, empathy, and shared strength. Seeking personal and professional help makes this journey more manageable, with your connections guiding you toward brighter days.

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The Importance of Seeking Help

Taking the first step toward seeking help for depression can be daunting, but it’s an act of courage that can pave the way to healing and well-being. Let’s explore why reaching out for support is crucial and how it can significantly impact one’s journey.

The Stigma Around Mental Health

There’s no denying it – mental health stigma still persists in many corners of our society. It’s as if we’re conditioned to believe that seeking help for our emotional struggles is a sign of weakness. This perception couldn’t be further from the truth. The truth is that acknowledging and addressing our mental health is a display of immense strength. Recognising that seeking treatment is a proactive step toward improving oneself is a mindset shift we all need to embrace.

Encouraging Early Attention and Destigmatizing Seeking Professional Help

Early attention can make a world of difference in managing and overcoming depression. Just as we wouldn’t hesitate to seek medical attention for a physical ailment, our mental well-being deserves the same attention. It’s time to shatter the myth that seeking professional help via talking therapies is a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of self-care, strength, and a commitment to living a fulfilling life.

The Role of Counselling in Overcoming Depression

Therapists and counsellors create a comfortable, safe, and non-judgmental space for you to express your feelings, fears, and challenges. They help you identify and understand the root causes of your moods and feelings and help you explore how to improve your mental and emotional well-being.

Reaching out for help is not a sign of weakness but a courageous step that will support you through your healing journey and growth.

In addition to therapy, lifestyle adjustments are really helpful. This may include regular exercise, balanced nutrition, sleep, and the integration of meditation or journaling. In some cases, medication may be prescribed in conjunction with counselling to manage depression. You would discuss this with your GP.

Counselling offers you a pathway to healing with its empathic and professional support. By addressing the underlying causes and restoring a sense of hope and purpose, counselling empowers you to overcome depression and reclaim your life.


Talk with a Leone Centre Professional

If you do feel like you need some help and support, our Leone Centre professionals are available 7 days a week. Call us on 020 3930 1007. We can also provide fast track therapy.

We can offer in-person counselling in London appointments at our head office in Fulham and our offices in Kensington, Wimbledon and Belgravia, We also service Victoria, Putney, Chelsea, Knightsbridge, Mayfair, and City of London.

In addition, we offer Online Therapy appointments wherever in the world you are located, should this better fit around your existing commitments or if you are not able to attend an in-person appointment.