Valerie Northcote

Individual, Couples, and EMDR Therapist

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Online

With over 20 years of experience and a warm, grounded relational style, Valerie is an MBACP- and COSRT-accredited Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist, EMDR Practitioner, Addiction Counsellor, and Clinical Supervisor. She works with individuals and couples experiencing sexual issues, relationship challenges, and the emotional impact of trauma, infidelity, or compulsive sexual behaviours.

Valerie’s work is integrative and responsive, drawing on Humanistic, Psychodynamic, Systemic, and Trauma-Focused approaches. She offers a thoughtful, non-judgemental space to explore sexual wellbeing, intimacy, emotional connection, and self-worth. With specialist training in psychosexual therapy, sex addiction, and EMDR, she supports clients in understanding the roots of their difficulties and moving towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Offering online appointments.

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About Valerie Northcote

I am an experienced MBACP and CORST-accredited Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist, Addiction Counsellor, EMDR UK-accredited EMDR Practitioner, and Clinical Supervisor, with over 20 years of therapeutic experience supporting individuals and couples across a wide range of emotional, relational, and psychological challenges.

My career has taken me through diverse settings, including colleges, youth services, voluntary sector organisations, sexual health clinics and private healthcare. I have worked with clients from ages 11 to 80, before specialising exclusively in adult work and psychosexual therapy from 2013 onwards.

My approach is integrative and always tailored to the person or couple in front of me. I draw on Humanistic, Person-Centred, Transactional Analysis, Psychodynamic and Systemic perspectives to ensure therapy feels understandable, collaborative and grounded in what you need.

As a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist, I support clients with a wide range of sexual difficulties including changes in desire, arousal, painful sex, or challenges related to past sexual traumaSexual Trauma Experiencing sexual trauma can have profound and lasting impacts on an individual's mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Psychosexual... More about this therapy. I also work with compulsive or out-of-control sexual behaviours, including problematic pornography use, recognising that not everyone who struggles with sexual behaviour meets criteria for “sex addiction.” When trauma is present, I integrate EMDR therapy to help clients process and heal before working directly on sexual or relational repair.

Alongside psychosexual and relationship work, I have extensive experience offering counselling for addiction, emotional wellbeing, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, domestic and sexual violence, infidelity, neurodiversity-related challenges and stress. As a clinical supervisor for both qualified and trainee counsellors, I offer reflective, supportive and ethically grounded supervision across a range of clinical settings.

As an Accredited EMDR Practitioner I am able to support clients to process a wide range of traumatic and distressing life events.. These may include childhood abuse, sexual abuse and assaults, domestic violence and abuse as well as bereavement, addictions, OCD symptoms and general anxiety and relationship trauma. I find EMDR especially helpful in my work as a sex therapist alongside a more traditional psychosexual programme where previous traumatic events are blocking a person’s ability to enjoy a fulfilling sexual relationship… Relational trauma as experienced by partners of sex addicts and those struggling to manage their sexual behaviours, resulting in the breaking of trust and fidelity in the relationship, can also benefit from EMDR.

I offer a safe and non-judgemental space where you can explore difficulties, develop insight and move towards meaningful change. Clients often tell me that working together feels containing, steady and practical, with an emphasis on helping them find clarity and solutions at a pace that feels right.

Offering individual, couples, and EMDR therapy sessions online.